The next stage is the model, simplistic in appearance but deadly accurate in ascribing function to the cluster of small boxes, "really understandable to me who can't follow plans and elevations", says Laura Lee, director of Maggie's Centre in Edinburgh.The final stage is wrapping these functional forms into a collage with a membrane At Bilbao's Guggenheim it was curvaceous, tensile titanium Who knows how this building will end up? Only Frank Gehry. What you see at this stage is not necessarily what you will get. A series of imploding bricks and blocks is designed to show us simply that he tackled the function of the brief.Planned on a domestic scale, at 200 square metres, it has an entrance with a coat and brolly space; a sitting-room extension with information and library area, video access, an outside view, and a hearth There may be a fish tank - Maggie Keswick liked them. The kitchen has a table for 12 and a central island for cooking demos, as diet is important.There's a larger relaxation room for 12 lying down, two smaller counselling rooms with a fire, and two small soundproofed therapy rooms. Lavatories have wash basins and mirrors and no gaps under the doors. There is a small space to lie down, and a garden, as well as parking for visitors.The brief to Frank Gehry must have pained him a little He was her best friend, after all. "We want the building to make you feel - as Maggie made you feel when you had spent time with her - more buoyant, more optimistic, that life was more interesting than it seemed before.

Ambitious, but possible?"The Taj Mahal is the famous love story written in marble. Time and tourists have picked away over four centuries at the lapis lazuli but the spirit remains But it still is a tomb. Meanwhile, another love story is being written in Dundee by Charles Jencks, in the name of his late wife.. AS THE holiday season comes upon us, women all over the country will start the flurry of preparations for the family's big summer break.

Somewhere in between the washing and the shopping trips for swimming costumes, books, sun block, sweets for the journey and toys for the toddler, she will realise that, as far as getting ready for holidays goes, she has progressed no further forward than her mother or, indeed, her grandmother. Hiding behind the excitement of getting away from it all, packing is one of the most insidious of gender issues, which traps husband and wife, girlfriend and boyfriend into roles that are about as progressive as the mother and father in the Janet and John books. In the typical household car-packing is considered manly and practical, and it is the only contribution many men will make towards preparing for a big holiday.Rebecca Morrison, who has an anally retentive car-packer for a husband, and three children under the age of eight, says: "When we finally get into the car, he will go on to reminisce about travelling around America with just one change of clothes for six months, and while he has his Jack Kerouac fantasy I fume with irritation. There is then the inevitable row, which lasts till Dover and maybe half-way across the Channel, fuelled by my resentment at having had to take two days off to get everything ready, to plan what will keep my kids amused, not only for the journey but for lulls in the television-less evenings. He just had to stroll around in the morning, folding a couple of T-shirts and a couple of pairs of shorts and choosing a paperback. It is no wonder then that he regards my running around as neurotic and unnecessary."Gillian Shepard, a psychotherapist, says that her experiences are typical: "Leaving for holiday can be an extremely stressful time, particularly for the mother who feels that the success of the trip depends on her, and what she decides to take. Men just seem to continue to think of their own provisions, and so act rather like bachelors packing solely for themselves, or even expecting their partners to lay out a choice of clothes on the bed.